© 25 May 2013: Dr.V.M.Palaniappan
Those who have done some gardening may know it.
Let us see what happens to it:
These will blossom and whither off.
After that, the branch gradually dies off.
When all the branches of a plant have borne flowers, the entire plant dies off.
This happens because the purpose of reproduction assigned to the plant by Nature has already been achieved.
Further existence of plant is redundant, and therefore all symptoms of old age including shrinkage and weathering occur, and the whole plant totally dies off soon.
We should not wait until the arrival of the `die-back' situation.
This way, the plant will continue to thrive for a prolonged period.
Flowering too will continue almost non-stop, for numerous years.
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Human body too behaves exactly the same way.
A man having regular sex will keep youthful even in his sixties, seventies and eighties.
One who does not have sex at all (not even masturbation) would soon recognise an initial thickening of his seminal fluid, which would then get reduced in quantity, and may even stop altogether if the 'idle' situation prolongs.
He would soon develop wrinkles and shrinkage, and would look as if he has been `beaten-up' in life.
With the cessation of such a menses, her capacity to reproduce also stops.
Although a man can continue to use her as an 'object' to have sex, her potential as a reproducible female would have come to an end.
If Nature's purpose of creating a female to reproduce with a view to keep up the progeny on this earth, then her existence after development of menopause becomes redundant or meaningless.
So, Nature always tries to keep up the fertility status of a female as long as it could.
But, for some reason if such a status is not kept up, then sterility sets in, together with all other symptoms of old age.
The idea of Nature is to get rid of the `useless' female body from a state of living.
This necessitates the removal of the unnecessary 'burden' from earth so as to let other 'fertile' 'organisms' 'utilse' all the 'available' natural resources.
So, withering occurs, and death soon follows - the woman becomes too old at a drastic speed, gets a 'massive heart attack' or something of that kind that would bring an end to her living.
Her body would then turn into 'organic manure' (along with time) if buried, or ashes (minarals, such as calcium, magnesium, sodium, etc.) if cremated.
These would then directly or indirectly enter into the bodies of the future generations.
Thus, the earth's dynamism keeps going endlessely!
God appears to have made the entire phenomenon 'self-sustaining'.
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She must continue to be fertile.
This means, she must continue to have her monthly menstruations without any change in its pattern.
A change in the pattern of menses tends to indicate that menopause is about to set in.
So, the latter should not happen.
Thus, a female will retain all her youthfulness as long as she continues to menstruate.
Undoubtedly a lot of women tend to consider the monthly occurrence as a nuisance, and menopause gives them some kind of relief, when menses totally stops.
In the first place, why should a female get discarded by Nature as a useless individual?
The following explanation will enlighten us well:
These nuns do not even think of men and sex.
If the thought of man comes to their mind, they instantly pray to God and get rid of such desires.
To help promote the thoughts of God, and to suppress the sex-related desires, such women, called Sanyasinis in the practice of Hiduism, even eat bland diets, without salt and spices.
They succeed very well in their attempts.
In these women, the bodily hormone secretions that are related to sex and reproduction would gradually decrease, and would soon cease altogether.
(The rule in human existence appears to be this: Any organ or any part of the body that has been left totally unused for prolonged period, will become vestigeal.)
Such secretions become redundant in them. This stage is very soon followed by menopause.
This way, the nuns and Sanyasinis tend to develop menopause at an early age.
For girls who started off as nuns or Sanyasinis at a relatively young age, it may occur even in their early 30's.
Let us now consider some women who are not married for a long time after attaining puberty.
The reason for such a delay does not matter much for our evaluation here.
All that matters is that she is a virgin, but she has ample desires and longings to get married or to have sex.
In these females, the sex-related hormones do secrete to some extent.
However, since the actual mating has not taken place for a prolonged period of time, the reproduction-related functions in the body slowly decline and get withdrawn.
These too soon promote the setting in of menopause.
However, these females tend to develop it only in their late thirties or early forties.
Their sex related activities are highly irregular.
A husband who often needs to be away from home may not be able to have sex with his wife regularly.
This kind of women tend to develop their menopause in their mid-forties.
In other words, such a womsn considers that as a norm for every woman on earth, and there is nothing special about her husband.
Therefore, she often fails to appreciate the unique contributions of her husband.
This appears to be the only shortcoming in her.
She would of course become very possessive of her husband, and would become hysterical if her husband has affairs with other women.
She often becomes very jealous.
(a) a chaste woman should develop menopause in her mid or at least late-forties, and
(b) if she continues to have menses further into her fifties, she is often branded as a 'bad' character, meaning thereby that she must have had sex with several men.
It is indeed a sad accusation for a woman who did nothing wrong except to have enjoyed regular orgasmic pleasures with her husband.
Among them, as I have already pointed out, only a very few have been especially blessed to receive such an orgasmic pleasure from their husbands.
It is unfortunte that these women, for want of comparison, often fail to appreciate the value of this rarity.
This is so because not many of them are psychologists (like me!) to understand rest of the world.
It would help a great deal in fostering the family if a wife could become appreciative of this fact as well.
A peacock tends to perform very attractive dances to win its female partner.
The males among all the animals such as lizards, beetles, butterflies, birds, lambs, bulls and deers try to show off their capabilities by various means to their female kinds to win them over.
Somewhat identical phenomenon seems to exist among humans as well.
However, there appears to exist some difference between those who are handsome and those who are not.
Since women are easily attracted towards the handsome ones, the need to develop special skills does not arise, whereas the not-so-attractive men feel the necessity and they develop it accordingly.
As a result of it, most of the handsome men tend not to be exploratory in the performance of sex acts.
They usually lack imaginative power in the area of sex.
Often, the unattractive men prove to be the best performers.
The latter group of men tend to give their partners the much needed orgasmic pleasures.
Such a person, since blessed with the best of both worlds, certainly deserves to be congratulated!
Instead, her expectations often tend to go so high up that she often gets disappointed with her husband!
This is a psychological problem, indeed!
Could this be a major reason for marital failures among females who are elected as beauty queens in stage events?
This should be the result of their constant search for compensating what they do not have in Nature.
Similarly, a mediocre man marrying a beautiful woman offers equally a lot to keep her happy.
A beautiful woman and a handsome man in the above combinations become mere recepients of the spouse's contributions, without much appreciation.
They tend to believe that they deserve such a `royal' treatment!
However, the on-lookers keep admiring them as if they are the perfect couple, made for each other!
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We can classify these women into two different categories:
It could happen even in her mid or early thirties.
This should be due to withdrawal of the hormones owing to excessive usage.
There will not be any pre-coital secretions in these women.
Even the orgasmic pleasures would cease to occur in them.
A kind of 'bluntness' develops in their sex-related sensory organs.
These are all withdrawal symptoms.
Soon, they would become sterile.
This is so because of the influence of the sex-related hormones over the pelvic bones and various muscles in the vicinity.
The orgasmic convulsions are directly related to the central nervous system.
On the other hand, those who have sex without attaining orgasms, tend to build up more and more tensions.
This forms the major reason for married women to disagree with their husbands in various matters that are un-related to sex.
Further, they tend to reject invitations to have frequent sex: after all, it only adds tension to them, rather than a release from it. Frustration results.
Literally, it means the attainment of mental peace.
However, it refers to a time chosen for the couple to have sex for the first time in their lives to achieve `santhi' or `release of nervous tension' (or, peace) that has been building up in them since they came to `age' or puberty.
On this first night, the bride is supposed to get her orgasm and feel contended.
For the man, it goes very easily with the release of his seminal fluid.
The unfortunate part of the deal is that the bride not only on the nuptial night, but all throughout her lifetime, does not get her orgasm, just because of the man's ignorance.
(a) a couple have been having regular sex, and
(b) if the wife has been getting her orgasmic pleasures,
all you have to do is to compare how both of them `look'.
If the husband looks a lot younger and the wife looks like his mother, then it would mean that both of them have been having regular sex, but the wife never, ever had orgasm.
If both of them look old and worn-out, they have not been having any sex relation at all.
If both of them look young, then she too has been getting her orgasm very regularly.
As per my observation, I am of the opinion that the extent to which a person attains sexual satisfaction forms the only major determinant of the youthful status of the physique.
The result was shocking: it appears only about five per cent of the couples looked very youthful.
Among the rest, most of the women looked oldish, and their husbands looked very young.
It may not be too difficult to judge what has been going on in these families.
The next time you see a couple, just analyse the situation: no one would find it, and neither will it be an error!
Just see yourself the unfortunate situation that prevails in the world of women.
The latter of course has several other reasons behind it.
There must be some reason for it in nature.
This must be related to Nature's definite purpose of making a woman fertilised.
After all, the ultimate purpose of Nature is to keep up continuity of the progeny.
Otherwise, extinction of the species would result.
The following should prove to be a sensible hypothesis, and I beg, no one should get offended:
If the female has to get definitely fertilised with absolute certainty, then she must be capable of receiving few more supplies of such seminal fluids from other available males.
Now, this cannot happen if the female developed orgasm with one individual male.
Nature's wish could be such that she must not become unavailable to other contributors.
To this end, she should not get her satisfaction within the time required for the ejaculation of seminal fluids by one male, and she must become `available' to a few more males, and receive a few more lots of seminal fluids.
This would then ascertain a positive fertilisation.
When it comes to Nature, it is an artificial kind of restriction.
Nature does not recognise this social restriction.
Therefore, it still maintains the disparity in the timing for the development of orgasms between the sexes.
It appears the plants have something to offer us:
Insects, in the process of their search of food (honey), keep visiting flower after flower.
While doing so, their body gets smeared with pollen grains, which are the equivalent of sperms, and these get transferred to the sticky tip of a female organ called stigma, which forms the receiving `mouth' for the pollen grains.
The flower could close its doorway at this point.
But it does not.
The female flower still supplies its honey and keeps the stigma receptive to newer insect visitors and a few more `loads' of pollen grains.
The stigma allows all such pollens to germinate and send down their male `sperms' to fertilise the egg.
However, the moment one fast growing and most competitive `sperm' fertilises the egg, the flower immediately closes all its entry points and shuns away all other already-germinated pollens.
This way, the egg makes absolutely certain of fertilisation, and that too with the best chosen one.
Here the fittest survives.
Nature makes things foolproof.
At the same time, we should not forget for a while that polyandry (The Hindu mythological story of five Pandavars + Throubathy) (and of course, polygamy) of different kinds did exist among humans at one time in the history of man.
To this end, God will not excuse those who do not justify the restricted married life, for every woman deserves the God-given happiness!
If child-bearing and its delivery are painful events to a woman, God has given them unlimited pleasures in each orgasm as compensation.
But, it is up to the man - the husband to give it to his wife, each and every time if possible!
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Well friends, I hope you enjoyed knowing the above, exculsively my OWN research-based analysis of the situtaion.
No offence is meant to anyone. So, if you differ, kindly bear with me.
I have written a lot of very useful facts in my books:
1. Menses, Menopause, and Osteoporosis, and
2. Sex Problems: Causes, Cure and Prevention.
If interested, you can read them.
With best wishes and thanks for reading this article.
Dr. Palani, Ph.D.