REGULAR AND SATISFACTORY SEX RELATIONS CAN POSTPONE MENOPAUSE AND PROLONG THE LIFESPAN OF WOMEN, BESIDES KEEPING THEM YOUNG AND BEAUTIFUL
© 25 May 2013: Dr.V.M.Palaniappan
Do you know the techniques of
keeping a rose bush or a jasmine plant alive almost permanently in a fertile
state?
Those who have done some gardening may know it.
Let us see what happens to it:
A rose plant would grow, give
out several branches, and develop flower buds at each of the tip end.
These will blossom and whither off.
After that, the branch gradually dies off.
When all the branches of a plant have borne
flowers, the entire plant dies off.
This
happens because the purpose of reproduction assigned to the plant by Nature has
already been achieved.
Further existence
of plant is redundant, and therefore all symptoms of old age including
shrinkage and weathering occur, and the whole plant totally dies off soon.
If we wish to keep the rose
plant alive and in an active, healthy and flowering stage, we have to regularly
prune the branches, immediately after flowering.
We should not wait until the arrival of the `die-back' situation.
This way, the plant will continue to thrive
for a prolonged period.
Flowering too
will continue almost non-stop, for numerous years.
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Human body too behaves
exactly the same way.
A man having
regular sex will keep youthful even in his sixties, seventies and eighties.
One who does not have sex at all (not even
masturbation) would soon recognise an initial thickening of his seminal fluid,
which would then get reduced in quantity, and may even stop altogether if the
'idle' situation prolongs.
He would soon
develop wrinkles and shrinkage, and would look as if he has been `beaten-up' in
life.
A woman will be fertile only
if she continues to have menstruation, shortly called menses.
With the cessation of such a menses, her
capacity to reproduce also stops.
Although a man can continue to use her as an 'object' to have sex, her
potential as a reproducible female would have come to an end.
If Nature's purpose of creating a female to
reproduce with a view to keep up the progeny on this earth, then her existence
after development of menopause becomes redundant or meaningless.
So, Nature always tries to keep up the
fertility status of a female as long as it could.
But, for some reason if such a status is not
kept up, then sterility sets in, together with all other symptoms of old age.
The idea of Nature is to get rid of the
`useless' female body from a state of living.
This necessitates the removal of the unnecessary 'burden' from earth so as to let other 'fertile' 'organisms' 'utilse' all the 'available' natural resources.
So, withering occurs, and death soon follows - the woman becomes too old at a drastic speed, gets a 'massive heart attack' or something of that kind that would bring an end to her living.
Her body would then turn into 'organic manure' (along with time) if buried, or ashes (minarals, such as calcium, magnesium, sodium, etc.) if cremated.
These would then directly or indirectly enter into the bodies of the future generations.
Thus, the earth's dynamism keeps going endlessely!
God appears to have made the entire phenomenon 'self-sustaining'.
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In other words, if a female
wants to live with all characteristics that denote youthfulness, she has to
maintain her potential for reproduction.
She must continue to be fertile.
This means, she must continue to have her monthly menstruations without
any change in its pattern.
A change in
the pattern of menses tends to indicate that menopause is about to set in.
So, the latter should not happen.
Thus, a female will retain all her youthfulness
as long as she continues to menstruate.
Undoubtedly a lot of women tend to consider the monthly occurrence as a
nuisance, and menopause gives them some kind of relief, when menses totally stops.
Let us see why all these
happen.
In the first place, why should a
female get discarded by Nature as a useless individual?
The following explanation will enlighten us
well:
Even before we could analyse
the reason behind the setting-in of menopause, let us see how and when women
develop menopause.
Without offending any
religion, let us just see the logic of the occurrence only for the purpose
of understanding the phenomenon of fertility in relation to bodily function and
mental status:
The nuns in a
church, who are spinsters (virgins), are trained to be devoted in the practice of religion.
These nuns do
not even think of men and sex.
If the
thought of man comes to their mind, they instantly pray to God and get rid of
such desires.
To help promote the
thoughts of God, and to suppress the sex-related desires, such women, called Sanyasinis in the practice of Hiduism, even eat
bland diets, without salt and spices.
They succeed very well in
their attempts.
In these women, the bodily hormone secretions that are
related to sex and reproduction would gradually decrease, and would soon cease
altogether.
(The rule in human existence appears to be this: Any organ or any part of the body that has been left totally unused for prolonged period, will become vestigeal.)
Such secretions become
redundant in them. This stage is very
soon followed by menopause.
Thus, a female who does not
use her body and mind for reproduction loses her status as a `useful'
individual on this earth, as far as it concerns the upkeep of the progeny.
This way, the nuns and Sanyasinis tend to develop menopause
at an early age.
For girls who started off as nuns or Sanyasinis at a
relatively young age, it may occur even in their early 30's.
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Let us now consider some
women who are not married for a long time after attaining puberty.
The reason for such a delay does not matter
much for our evaluation here.
All that matters is that she is a virgin, but she
has ample desires and longings to get married or to have sex.
In these females, the sex-related hormones do
secrete to some extent.
However, since
the actual mating has not taken place for a prolonged period of time, the
reproduction-related functions in the body slowly decline and get
withdrawn.
These too soon promote the
setting in of menopause.
However, these
females tend to develop it only in their
late thirties or early forties.
The third type includes women
who are married, but for some reason have sex with their husbands only
occasionally:
Their sex related activities are highly irregular.
A husband who often needs to be away from
home may not be able to have sex with his wife regularly.
This kind of women tend to develop their
menopause in their mid-forties.
The fourth category of women
who have regular sex with their
husbands, but yet do not get any orgasm,
tend to develop their menopause in their
late forties.
The fifth but small number of
women who experience orgasm most of the time they have sex with their husbands,
and have regular and frequent sex, will develop their menopause only in their
late fifties or early sixties.
If the fifth category of
women do not avoid pregnancy, and have regular child birth, then, they will
continue to have regular menstruations even until they reach their 70.
The fifth category of women
often tend to get very much attached to their husbands, would never disagree
with even sex-unrelated matters, and would become their `slaves' for ever,
bound of course, by love.
The husband who has taken so much of
care to make his wife happy and satisfied all the time unfortunately does not
get any reward, for this fifth category woman tends to believe that one hundred
percent of all the married women do get orgasmic pleasure of the SAME kind every
time they have sex with their husbands.
In other words, such a womsn considers that as a norm for every woman on earth, and there is nothing special about her husband.
Therefore, she often fails to appreciate the
unique contributions of her husband.
This appears to be the only shortcoming in
her.
She would of course become very
possessive of her husband, and would become hysterical if her
husband has affairs with other women.
She often becomes very jealous.
There is a strong belief
among women folks of village communities in some oriental countries that:
(a) a
chaste woman should develop menopause in her mid or at least late-forties, and
(b) if she continues to have menses further into her fifties, she is often
branded as a 'bad' character, meaning thereby that she must have had sex with
several men.
It is indeed a sad
accusation for a woman who did nothing wrong except to have enjoyed regular
orgasmic pleasures with her husband.
With the exception of a very
small, insignificant number, majority of the world women, especially in the
oriental countries, are doubtlessly very chaste.
Among them, as I have already pointed out,
only a very few have been especially blessed to receive such an orgasmic
pleasure from their husbands.
It is
unfortunte that these women, for want of comparison, often fail to appreciate
the value of this rarity.
Identical to the same, the
few husbands who know the art of satisfying their wives, do not know that they
are the rare ones among men.
This is so
because not many of them are psychologists (like me!) to understand rest of the world.
Keeping a wife satisfied this
way all the time tends to be very demanding on the part of the husband.
It would help a great deal in fostering the
family if a wife could become appreciative of this fact as well.
Another interesting
observation I have made is worthy of mention here:
Most of us are aware of a
phenomenon that exists among animals.
A
peacock tends to perform very attractive dances to win its female partner.
The males among all the animals such as
lizards, beetles, butterflies, birds, lambs, bulls and deers try to show off
their capabilities by various means to their female kinds to win them over.
Somewhat identical phenomenon seems to exist
among humans as well.
All the men tend to put up
their best to win their females.
However, there appears to exist some difference between those who are
handsome and those who are not.
Since
women are easily attracted towards the handsome ones, the need to develop
special skills does not arise, whereas the not-so-attractive men feel the
necessity and they develop it accordingly.
As a result of it, most of the handsome men tend not to be exploratory
in the performance of sex acts.
They
usually lack imaginative power in the area of sex.
Often, the unattractive men
prove to be the best performers.
The
latter group of men tend to give their partners the much needed orgasmic
pleasures.
Somewhat identical to the
above, less attractive women married to handsome men, tend to exercise maximum
care and provide their best to their husbands.
A reader who is handsome and
who also has a high degree of capability need not feel offended.
Such a person, since blessed with the best of
both worlds, certainly deserves to be congratulated!
When it comes to the women
born very beautiful, and subjected to praise by all from childhood, also does
not seem to contribute much to the husband by way of cooperation.
Instead, her expectations often tend to go so
high up that she often gets disappointed with her husband!
This is a psychological problem, indeed!
Could this be a major reason for marital
failures among females who are elected as beauty queens in stage events?
From the psychological point
of view, men and women who are mediocre or less in their appearance, seem to be
the best contributors to their spouses!
This should be the result of their constant search for compensating what
they do not have in Nature.
Thus, as has already been
pointed out, a mediocre woman marrying a handsome man tries her best to please
him.
Similarly, a mediocre man marrying
a beautiful woman offers equally a lot to keep her happy.
A beautiful woman and a handsome man in the
above combinations become mere recepients of the spouse's contributions,
without much appreciation.
They tend to
believe that they deserve such a `royal' treatment!
When a handsome man marries a
beautiful woman (as it happened in the case of one of my friends, a Ph.D. and a Professor in University), both of them tend to become very dull and unexplorative (- My frined and his wife never had any sex during the frist six months after their marriage!)
However, the on-lookers keep admiring them as
if they are the perfect couple, made for each other!
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Let us now consider the fate
of prostitutes who tend to have sex with several men, and therefore likely to
get orgasm very often - at least during the early stages of her `career' and
until she becomes `immune' to such sensitivity owing to over-indulgence.
We can classify these women into two
different categories:
A prostitute who has sex with only
four or five men per night, and indulges in her business for about 20 days in a
month, has been regular for a prolonged period, and continues into her late
fifties and early sixties, will not develop her menopause until about 70 or so.
On the other hand, one who
has sex with a large number of men almost every night, for a prolonged period,
tends to develop menopause very early.
It could happen even in her mid or early thirties.
This should be due to withdrawal of the
hormones owing to excessive usage.
There
will not be any pre-coital secretions in these women.
Even the orgasmic pleasures would cease to
occur in them.
A kind of 'bluntness'
develops in their sex-related sensory organs.
These are all withdrawal symptoms.
Soon, they would become sterile.
Women who have orgasm most of
the time they have sex, will have no difficulty when it comes to delivering
their babies in a natural manner.
This
is so because of the influence of the sex-related hormones over the pelvic
bones and various muscles in the vicinity.
The orgasmic convulsions are directly related to the central nervous
system.
A woman who gets orgasm
through sexual relations will have her nervous tensions relaxed.
On the other hand, those who have sex without
attaining orgasms, tend to build up more and more tensions.
This forms the major reason for married women
to disagree with their husbands in various matters that are un-related to
sex.
Further, they tend to reject
invitations to have frequent sex: after all, it only adds tension to them,
rather than a release from it.
Frustration results.
Among Indians, the
first nuptial night for a married couple after their wedding is called `Santhi Muhoortham'.
Literally, it means the attainment of mental
peace.
However, it refers to a time
chosen for the couple to have sex for the first time in their lives to achieve
`santhi' or `release of nervous tension' (or, peace) that has been building up in them
since they came to `age' or puberty.
On
this first night, the bride is supposed to get her orgasm and feel
contended.
For the man, it goes very
easily with the release of his seminal fluid.
The unfortunate part of the deal is that the bride not only on the
nuptial night, but all throughout her lifetime, does not get her orgasm, just
because of the man's ignorance.
If you are interested in
finding if:
(a) a couple have been having regular sex, and
(b) if the wife has
been getting her orgasmic pleasures,
all you have to do is to compare how both
of them `look'.
If the husband looks a lot younger and the wife looks like his
mother, then it would mean that both of them have been having regular sex, but
the wife never, ever had orgasm.
If both of them look old and worn-out, they have not been
having any sex relation at all.
If both
of them look young, then she too has been getting her orgasm very
regularly.
Some may argue that the above
is only one of the many reasons that help in the keeping up of the youthful
looks.
As per my observation, I am of
the opinion that the extent to which a person attains sexual satisfaction forms
the only major determinant of the youthful status of the physique.
With the idea of finding the
situation in Kuala Lumpur, I observed all the couples I have been coming
across.
The result was shocking: it
appears only about five per cent of the couples looked very youthful.
Among the rest, most of the women looked
oldish, and their husbands looked very young.
It may not be too difficult to judge what has been going on in these
families.
The next time you see a
couple, just analyse the situation: no one would find it, and neither will it
be an error!
Just see yourself the
unfortunate situation that prevails in the world of women.
While doing the above
analysis, one should evaluate only the looks of a person and not the total life
span, for women in all societies tend to live longer than men.
The latter of course has several other
reasons behind it.
The failure to develop
orgasmic satisfaction with a single act of sex, with a single partner, appears
to be a kind of curse bestowed upon women for reasons so far not known to
people (Of course, I know that, and I have described in my books).
Why should a man come off so
soon, whereas a woman takes such a prolonged time to get hers?
There must be some reason for it in
nature.
This must be related to Nature's
definite purpose of making a woman fertilised.
After all, the ultimate purpose of Nature is to keep up continuity of
the progeny.
Otherwise, extinction of
the species would result.
Let us try and derive some
meaningful biological explanations for this phenomenon that occurs in
nature.
The following should prove to be
a sensible hypothesis, and I beg, no one should get offended:
When a man has already
discharged his seminal fluid containing unbelievably large number of fertile
sperms capable of fertilising the egg in the female body, he is not needed any
more and his presence is redundant, at least when it concerns this particular
female.
With the union of one male,
and with the discharge of a large number of sperms, if the female has failed to
conceive, then the purpose of reproduction will be unnecessarily delayed.
If the female has to get definitely
fertilised with absolute certainty, then she must be capable of receiving few
more supplies of such seminal fluids from other available males.
Now, this cannot happen if the female
developed orgasm with one individual male.
Nature's wish could be such that she must not become unavailable to
other contributors.
To this end, she
should not get her satisfaction within the time required for the ejaculation of
seminal fluids by one male, and she must become `available' to a few more
males, and receive a few more lots of seminal fluids.
This would then ascertain a positive
fertilisation.
We should not forget that one
man - one wife relationship is a man-made custom, created with a view to making
available a woman to every man in the community.
When it comes to Nature, it is an artificial
kind of restriction.
Nature does not
recognise this social restriction.
Therefore, it still maintains the disparity in the timing for the
development of orgasms between the sexes.
Has the above view any
analogy to cling on to?
It appears the
plants have something to offer us:
A female flower with its
gynoecium remains open for a set number of hours.
It offers honey (nectar) to all the right kind of visiting insects.
Insects, in the process of their search of
food (honey), keep visiting flower after flower.
While doing so, their body gets smeared with
pollen grains, which are the equivalent of sperms, and these get transferred to
the sticky tip of a female organ called stigma, which forms the receiving
`mouth' for the pollen grains.
A single insect could
transfer this way a large number of pollen grains at one visit.
The flower could close its doorway at this
point.
But it does not.
The female flower still supplies its honey
and keeps the stigma receptive to newer insect visitors and a few more `loads'
of pollen grains.
The stigma allows all
such pollens to germinate and send down their male `sperms' to fertilise the egg.
However, the moment one fast growing and most
competitive `sperm' fertilises the egg, the flower immediately closes all its
entry points and shuns away all other already-germinated pollens.
This way, the egg makes absolutely certain of
fertilisation, and that too with the best chosen one.
Here the fittest survives.
If the flower closed its
doorways on receiving one pollen grain, and if that pollen failed to fertilise
the egg, then it would mean a total loss of the very flower.
Nature makes
things foolproof.
If we are willing to accept
this theory, then we could very well understand the time differences found
among the two human (genders) sexes in attaining orgasmic satisfaction.
Our social pattern along with
the communal living and artificially imposed restrictions we have been
practising ever since we became `civilised' do not allow multiple sex
relations.
At the same time, we should
not forget for a while that polyandry (The Hindu mythological story of five Pandavars + Throubathy) (and of course, polygamy) of different
kinds did exist among humans at one time in the history of man.
Whatever, as we live today
practising one man - one wife relationship, every husband is duty-bound to make
his wife happy the way she deserves it.
To this end, God will not excuse those who do not justify the restricted
married life, for every woman deserves the God-given happiness!
If child-bearing and its delivery are painful
events to a woman, God has given them unlimited pleasures in each orgasm as
compensation.
But, it is up to the man -
the husband to give it to his wife, each and every time if possible!
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Well friends, I hope you enjoyed knowing the above, exculsively my OWN research-based analysis of the situtaion.
No offence is meant to anyone. So, if you differ, kindly bear with me.
I have written a lot of very useful facts in my books:
1. Menses, Menopause, and Osteoporosis, and
2. Sex Problems: Causes, Cure and Prevention.
If interested, you can read them.
With best wishes and thanks for reading this article.
Dr. Palani, Ph.D.
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